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I am going to make broad statements based on my opinion and limited experience. I cannot back up what I say with any facts. Still interested in reading my benefit
thoughts on men & lesbianism after reading that disclaimer?
It’s commonly thought that men are more accepting of female homosexuality than male. I say, men in truth do not accept same sex unions that shut them out. No. Instead men imagine their role in all female sex scenes. For many men women are sexual beings who exist for men’s pleasure. A typical man views lesbianism as women he finds visually appealing putting on a sex show for his benefit.
A second option that interests your average guy is two or more women cooperatively working with each other, united in their mission to satisfy his desires.
Said average guy sees all women through a sexual filter. For example: yes I want her no I don’t want her, maybe I could have her, wish I could have her, no way that’s my mom, bet she was hot when she was younger, etc., etc…
A woman not connected to sex is irrelevant and invisible. Non-existent in his thought life.
Men cannot understand lesbianism as female sexuality apart from men so they change the truth of exclusively female sex into the lie of women in service to men’s desires. That’s the stuff of fantasies in many porn movies, and has nothing to do with tolerance.
[ In the writing below you will find confidently stated opinions that I express as though they are facts. My statements are not evidence based but experience based. My experience is, naturally, limited to little me. I cannot back up what I say with any proof. Still interested in reading my thoughts on men & lesbianism after reading that disclaimer? Be my guest. I just encourage you to be aware of the author’s point of view, especially when reading online.]
Men like lesbianism. Not bc they accept their own exclusion from sex but bc they imagine that they do, or could, have a role in all female sexual situations. For many men women are, primarily or exclusively, sexual beings who exist for men’s pleasure. A typical man wants lesbianism to be about him. He visualizes women he finds appealing putting on a sex show with each other for his benefit. That is why men often look at each other knowingly when the topic of lesbianism arises. They know how those same sex unions would suit them.
A second way our average guy defines lesbianism is: two or more women cooperatively working on him or for his sexual pleasure. Lesbianism has nothing to do with women’s relationship to each other outside of how well they cooperate to satisfy him.
Men do not accept Lesbianism if it means their sexual exclusion. In it’s purist form men’s exclusion is a prerequisite. Therefore your average guy doesn’t accept female homosexuality any more than male homosexuality. It’s just that your average guy cannot fit sexually unavailable women into his thought process. The big exception is, of course, incest. But even female relatives pass quickly through the filter of sexuality when men think “no way, that’s my mom, sister, daughter, etc…”
Sexually unavailable women are irrelevant and invisible to the average guy. In order to grasp lesbianism as a reality men must make it about them, thereby changing it’s truth into a false ideal.
According to studies, the #1 sexual fantasy for men and women is the same: two women.
–a guy told me today after I waited in vain for him to make good on a promise he had earnestly delivered.
Am I supposed to feel better knowing that I hadn’t been forgotten? To me, it is worse knowing that the person is well aware of his obligations but simply does not bother fulfilling them. There is a deeper truth to being remembered an ignored. At least if I had been forgotten, well, I could believe that the person did care in his heart of hearts. Forgetting a commitment might be entirely innocent, unless you are one of those people who believes that there are no such things as accidents–if you step on someone’s foot, lose a phone number, or forget a promise, such things are always done subconsciously, on purpose. To remember what you are supposed to do for someone but just not do it for no good reason–now that is disheartening.
I am right in the center of your mind’s eye, but you can easily look away from thoughts of me with a flippant, “I haven’t forgotten you!”
“I haven’t forgotten you. You are on my mind. I simply do not care. Thinking of you does not motivate me.”
–The real truth behind a common excuse made by people who fail to keep their commitments.
It is no wonder I am angry about my experiences with racism. Yes, I know I see slights that aren’t there. Sometimes. But overall, the hostility I fight against is not imaginary. On March 11, 2019 I read the article you will find if you click on the link below. women used to die in childbirth routinely, in previous centuries. But I expect better results in this century and I am correct to expect those results. It is unacceptable to me to hear that black women are twice as likely to die in childbirth than women of other races. Including educated and informed black women like me. Why? People don’t care about us, people hate us, and we avoid the trauma of this treatment by giving up on help. And we die as a result.
BLACK WOMEN ARE DISMISSED WITH ENOUGH HOSTILITY TO DRIVE THEM AWAY
Take a gander at the following statements. All of the statements were made by people who were service providers or authorities I had to turn to in order to get something I needed.
“What are you going to do, knock off a liquor store?
“What’s a black woman doing on this floor at all hours if she’s not there to clean?”
“Don’t do anything you can get arrested for.”
“I don’t know anything about these so-called threats to your safety. I don’t know how someone would break into your window. I’m not the criminal.”
“Tamika is here and she doesn’t have the money.”[My name is not Tamika]
“A lot of people think I don’t like black people but it’s not true. Some of my best friends…are you sure you are the same Caroleena I spoke to on the phone?”
“The police aren’t going to put their donuts down to help someone like you.”
“We don’t want certain people in this profession. Murderers. Rapists. Child molesters. And prostitutes.”
I am not saying everyone is racist, all the time. I am saying these hurtful experiences do real damage, especially in life and death situations. That’s why I keep fighting every injustice, no matter how small. I fight for all the people who can’t put on the Uber bitch exterior the way I can. I want things to be easier for all of us. We don’t deserve to die simply bc there are people who don’t think we deserve to live.
The movie Fresh is about a black kid who runs dope and somehow uses the game to save him and his sister from the life. I say “somehow” because the first time I saw it I knew nothing about drugs and didn’t understand half of what was said. How times have changed. Gone are the days when I didn’t know the difference between base and smack. I feel all grown up and sophisticated. Not bc the movie glorifies drugs. It doesn’t. And I certainly don’t live a life of guns and violence. Information is as close as I want to get to that life. So why do I feel so self congratulatory. Hmm…I guess I feel…worldly with my graduate degree in drug use.
I lie because I don’t know what kind of truth to tell you
“MEN LIE AND I DON’T KNOW WHY. THEY JUST DO.”
That’s what I said when I was sitting with a man watching a show about male and female relationships. The woman said “He is a compulsive liar.” The man said “I lie to spare her feelings.” I laughed because I have heard this line before. Charlie Sheen said to his very thing on the show Two and a Half Men. Charlie Sheen’s character was schooling the young kid on how men need to protect women. The man beside me said:
“I LIE BECAUSE I DON’T KNOW WHAT KIND OF TRUTH TO TELL YOU.”
He further clarified his point by saying: “Should I tell part of the story? Can I tell her in a way she can understand? Once I know a person I know the best thing to say for her sake. Some people call it manipulation but it’s really helping the person. It’ll all be the truth if it comes from me. It may just sound different than what I tell someone else.”
So, he lies we he doesn’t know a woman well and he lies when he knows a woman well. Either way his lies are for the best–her best. Extraordinary, that’s what I think, an smaxama justification for dinner. Opinions, anyone?